Part of My Thoughts on Relationships

I wanted to repost this blog I wrote a while back:

Relationships 101

I personally love talking to people about what I learned about romantic relationships. I mean who doesn’t love talking about love and what not? I know that during high school years and my time at Messiah College, whenever there was a discussion group or chapel about love and sex, those places were normally packed! God made us interested to be love and to love, and even to learn about anything that has the word “sex” in it. Point blank, they are just God-given desires!
I want to dedicate my first blog about what I’ve recently have been talking about with a friend of mine. Along with some input thoughts from my girlfriend, I wanted to write something short and brief.
For all my fellow guys (and ladies if you’re taking a sneak peak of this blog) here are my thoughts to make you think:

1) Dating for a long-comittment:

Two things: Why are you pursuing a relationship? Are you doing it because your friends are in a relationship and your obligated to be in one? Or do you cherish her and you can see yourself with her for possibly your entire life? I know it’s too early to think about that if you haven’t gotten to know that girl well enough. So why not start with pursuing a friendship before you’re thinking of her as future wifey?

2) “All guys are jerks!”

Does this quote sound anyway familiar? Yes, we do have our flaws, but what has happened to our role to make the female population have this thought? My point is as guys, what are we doing to make many girls say this? How are we treating them?

This might be a little weird, but pretend that there’s a random guy who has a bad reputation hitting on your little sister. I don’t know about you, but I would do anything in my power to protect my little sister from having some kind of disrespectful guy to even touch her. Not take that thought and think about that girl you’re pursuing or wanting to pursue. Are your motives to be with her pure? What are you trying to get out of this potential relationship? That girl is somebody’s daughter, sister, granddaughter. She deserves to be respected to the utmost and protected.

3) God works with you if you allow him to

I kid you not. God works with us if we include Him in our day-to-day decisions, even romantic relationships. I used to think that God doesn’t really care about that part of my life until I realized that most of my past relationships were no good because God was nowhere to be found. My girlfriend, before I asked her out, told me something that changed my perspective about God’s will. God’s will is made known if you’re intentionally putting God first over everything. Looking for God because you want a girlfriend is not going to make the cut. If you truly look for the Creator of Love, God will grant you the most amazing, unique love story that will be so particular for you!

A true man will man up to making sure God is the main priority.
These are just some of the things I had in mind as I continue to hear complaints from our fellow sistas. Overtime I would love to discuss more about this topic. Fellas, continue to seek God and His righteousness and God will respond to your needs. Lets change this generation by reflecting God’s character daily.

-Moises